How I learned to love myself (by loving others)
Posted on August 14, 2006
When I went off to rehab many years ago, I learned a great deal about coming to terms with who I was and what I needed to work on to make myself well; a better person all around who could cope with life on life’s terms.
My self-esteem was probably as low as my ankles are and I desperately needed to find my way back to “Reality” because the thoughts that I had about myself were unbearable to live with. And then I had an epiphany!!!
Someone close to me told me that the way that I judged myself was a reflection of the way that I judged other people around me. I couldn’t believe it, yet it made complete sense. After really thinking about it, I realized that I was even worse to me than I was to others…BEYOND JUDGEMENTAL!!! There it was…and I had to do something about it, FAST!!! Before it killed me!!
So I stopped…right then and there…just STOPPED…went cold turkey!!! Instead of looking for the defects, I would only allow myself to look for the beauty, the assets of every single person I would meet up with. It didn’t happen at once, it took some time, but this exercise proved to be the medicine I needed to turn everything around in my life. It certainly helped to change the way that I thought about me.
I will never forget the moment that I looked into the mirror and instead of seeing the wrinkle or the pimple…I saw the sparkle in my eyes.
And I cried and I cried…cause I knew that I had arrived to a place of well being and contentment in my own skin.
Please always look for the beauty in others, it will help you to find the beauty in yourself!!! I also promise it will bring you gifts in your life that you will never imagine until you get there!!
Love and Hugs
Wendy
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August 14th, 2006 at 9:59 pm
If every body does this can you imagine how much nicer the world will be? Amazing thoughts. I plan to implement them right away- although it may take me a while to get past the pimples…
August 15th, 2006 at 1:51 pm
Dear Linda….If I can do it..you can do it too!!! I am totally here to cheer you on with this if you need me, but you have to know, this is probably one of the greatest gifts that you will ever give to yourself!!
Love and Hugs
Wendy
August 22nd, 2006 at 10:42 am
Wendy,
I love this!!! I am going to start today - look for the good in all people instead of the negative. You are such an inspiration!!! Can’t wait for the clothing line!!
Love ya lots!
Julie B.
September 6th, 2006 at 8:27 am
Dear Julie…let me know how you’re doing with this exercise. Believe me, its not easy…but I promise, it works if given the time!!
Hang in there…you will NEVER forget the moment you look in the mirror and see the sparkle in your own eye!!
Love and Hugs
Wendy
September 9th, 2006 at 2:07 pm
that is wonderful advise has you know from talking to me before i have low self esteem myself but im getting better with it and always try to look for the best in people because god doesnt make junk and i know im not junk and neither is anyone else and if all the world thought like that life would be that much sweeter (and do ilove my sweets)well thats all trisha p.s thanks again for the awesome advise
October 6th, 2006 at 10:22 pm
Trisha,
You are delicious! LOL! Literally!
Thank you for your sweet and sincere post.
And you better love yourself, coz I love you already and hardly know you!
XXX
WENDY
January 3rd, 2007 at 7:22 am
Thank you for the advice, I don’t know how i ended up here, but it helped me greatly. my girlfriends had the same dilema. After explaining your words to her, she began to understand the possibilities of self-actualization. She started becoming more self confident, all the while finding only the good in all the people around her. Very inspirational, thank you.